“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” ~ Mary Oliver
Relationships are dynamic. We never know where they might lead or how they might end. I have been reflecting on how relationships are like boxes of chocolates--you do not know what you will get when you open the box. One time you can find a variety of candy there and love exploring each temptation, discovering the treasure it yields. Another box can have all the same chocolates and became predictable and comfortable.
A box full of darkness though is one that loses its flavour, turns stomachs and hardens hearts. It takes a long time to sort through the candy that left a bad taste, the disappointing fillings, the staleness, the half-eaten ones, the ones that were spit out, and the ones that never were meant to be tasted. Disappointed in not being more discerning and struggling with trusting another box can overtake a gentle soul who was just looking for sweetness.
It may take months or years but a dawning that the darkness too will shed light on the gift gathered in the pain does come. Healing happens. The decision to reach for another box might be instinctual rather than logical but the desire can return.
In love, what kind of chocolate box do you want to be?
Peace,
Suzanne
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